Resources
Nonfiction
Come As You Are
by Emily Nagoski
by Emily Nagoski
"Come As You Are" delves into the science of human sexuality. Dr. Nagoski combines research findings with a down-to-earth and engaging writing style to explore the intricacies of sexual well-being. The book challenges conventional ideas about sexuality and provides insights into understanding one's own desires and navigating the complexities of intimacy. It's not just a guide to improving one's sex life; it's a holistic exploration of the science behind sexual response, arousal, and overall sexual satisfaction. If you're interested in a scientifically grounded yet accessible perspective on sexuality, this book could be a fascinating read. Have you read it, or is this something new you're considering?
The Ethical Slut
by Janet W. Hardy
by Janet W. Hardy
"The Ethical Slut" explores and advocates for ethical non-monogamy and consensual open relationships. Co-authored by Dossie Easton, the book challenges traditional notions of monogamy and provides practical advice on navigating consensual non-monogamous relationships with respect, honesty, and communication.
The authors address issues such as jealousy, communication, and boundaries, offering insights into creating and maintaining healthy, consensual non-monogamous partnerships. It's not just a guide for those practicing polyamory; it's also a resource for anyone interested in understanding and reevaluating societal norms around relationships.
The Ethical Slut encourages readers to embrace their desires, communicate openly with partners, and approach relationships in a way that aligns with their values. It's a thought-provoking read for those curious about alternative relationship structures.
Mating in Captivity
by Esther Perel
by Esther Perel
"Mating In Captivity" is a thought-provoking exploration of the complex interplay between intimacy and desire within long-term relationships. Esther Perel, a renowned psychotherapist and relationship expert, challenges the common belief that intimacy and passion are mutually exclusive.
The book delves into the dynamics of maintaining desire in committed relationships, addressing the tension between the need for security and the desire for novelty. Perel offers insights into how couples can navigate the challenges of maintaining a strong sexual connection while deepening emotional intimacy.
Through real-life case studies and a blend of psychological and cultural perspectives, Perel encourages readers to reconsider conventional notions of monogamy and explore ways to keep passion alive in long-term relationships. It's a compelling read for anyone seeking a deeper understanding of the complexities of love, intimacy, and desire in the context of committed partnerships.
Opening Up
by Tristan Taormino
by Tristan Taormino
"Opening Up" is a comprehensive guide to exploring various forms of consensual non-monogamy. Taormino provides practical advice, personal stories, and relationship tips for individuals and couples interested in opening up their relationships.
The book covers a wide range of topics, including communication strategies, jealousy management, and different styles of non-monogamous relationships such as polyamory and swinging. Taormino approaches the subject with a sex-positive and inclusive perspective, making the book accessible to individuals with various relationship preferences and orientations.
"Opening Up" is not just a how-to guide but also an exploration of the emotional and social aspects of consensual non-monogamy. It aims to help readers navigate the complexities of open relationships while fostering healthy communication and respect among partners.
If you're curious about the practicalities and emotional considerations of non-monogamy, this book could provide valuable insights.
Polysecure
by Jessica Fern
by Jessica Fern
Attachment theory has gained widespread recognition, but the majority of discussions center around fostering secure monogamous relationships. However, what if, like many individuals, you aspire to cultivate secure and fulfilling connections with more than one partner? In a pioneering move, polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern extends attachment theory into the realm of consensual nonmonogamy.
Through her innovative nested model of attachment and trauma, Fern broadens our comprehension of how emotional experiences shape our relationships. She then outlines six specific strategies designed to guide you in establishing secure attachments within your multiple relationships. "Polysecure" not only serves as a groundbreaking theoretical treatise but also functions as a practical guide for those navigating the complexities of nonmonogamous dynamics.
Sex at Dawn
by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá
by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá
"Sex at Dawn" by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá is a captivating exploration of human sexuality from an evolutionary perspective. The authors challenge conventional theories about monogamy and argue that our ancestors lived in more complex and varied mating arrangements than often assumed.
The book examines anthropology, archaeology, and evolutionary psychology to suggest that human beings might not be inherently monogamous. Instead, it proposes that early humans engaged in a variety of sexual relationships, including multiple partners and communal living. Ryan and Jethá question societal norms around monogamy and challenge readers to reconsider the origins and nature of human sexuality.
"Sex at Dawn" is a thought-provoking and controversial book that has sparked discussions about the evolution of human relationships. It's an intriguing read for those interested in anthropology, psychology, and the cultural aspects of human sexuality.